My mother has menopause but will not get treatment, HELP!!!!?
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Well this has been going for a whyle now but this is starting to really affect my marriage and me and my huband never fight so im looking for outside help since talking to my mother isnt working.
My mother is about 47 i think, she had her euterus taken out so she is not having her cycle no more. She is moody, has night sweats, BOY did i say she is moody. and she has really bad arthritis. anyways those are some symptoms of menopause. But since she doesnt have her cycle she doesnt think she can get it.
Anyways my mother has an on going battle with my husband for i have no idea what reason, and it doesnt help that we live right next to her. I have a 7 month old son and well anyways she gets in his business.. she ask me why dont i care who he is talking to and just jealous things.
Main point is that she is driving my husband crazy, she tells him things that really Pizz him off and he is sick of it.
i need to know how i can convince her to get medication for her menopause. she is going to end up messing my relationship up because she is always going crazy on how my husband always wants to spend time with hers and when they go out she makes up stories that they are out cheating or something. SHE IS CRAZY and its impossible to live with her yet alone NEXT TO HER… i need some help i need her to get medication she is CRAZY
i love my mom and i love my husband the same, its hard to work at a customer service place listening to people complain for 8 hours and then i have to come home to my husband talking bad things about my mother and my mother talking bad things about my husband. All i want is peace. My step dad has had more than enough of it to, and my brother doesnt even bother passing by the house anymore. Its tearing the family appart. She is also having financial problems and i believe its due to the menopause she buys things she dont need and just a lot of things…. There is not enough characters for me to even go into detail SHE JUST NEEDS HELP!!!!!!!!!
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edifier
Friday, 19. March 2010
The quick fix is to move, its for the greater good. You cant say that you love her less by moving away, you could come around whenever you can and that should be ever so often. The idea is to keep hubby amd mommy apart. As for medication I’m always wary of too much medication in the long run and also the side effects. So I rather stay away from this as a solution.
llnlln56
Friday, 19. March 2010
Maybe your mom has other fears besides the one you mentioned. Estrogen can cause breast cancer. Maybe you could try some natural remedies on the market. Soy is suppose to be very good for helping. You could check with a pharmacist to see which over the counter products are the best to purchase. If you bought some and had them in your home maybe she’d be willing to try them. Or you might have to have a group meeting and kindly tell her she has to get some help, stating that she’s driving everyone away. Let her know that if she doesn’t get some help you’ll have no choice but to not allow her around your family. I know that will be difficult since she’s right next door, but your peace of mind and that of your family is at stake here. As well as her sanity. It’s difficult going through the change of life, and there are so many things that can be done to make it less uncomfortable. Your husband may want to start taking your son for short drives, just to get away for awhile, if driving relaxes him. I sincerely hope this helps. God bless
Georgie
Friday, 19. March 2010
Wow sorry your having a hard time with being caught in the middle of your husband and mother.
Did you mother have a full hysterectomy uterus and ovaries, or a partial hysterectomy where just the uterus was taken? If she has had a full hysterectomy then she could well be having symptoms of menopause.
Print off some information about the signs and symptoms of menopause, and ask your mother to read it, then to make an appointment to see a doctor, he/she will order blood tests, however blood tests may not always pick up low hormone levels (since they fluctuate), so the doctor should ask if she is suffering any other signs such as night sweats, mood swings, dry skin, sleeping problems etc.
Calmly tell her that her constant nit picking and interference with your husband is causing arguments. I had to talk to my father for doing the same with my husband and I, and he refused to talk to me for a few days (yes I know he is a man and he does not have menopause, but he is suffering from grumpy old man syndrome).
Could you suggest to your husband he does his level best to avoid her, and walk away from her when she starts up her nit picking, (easier said than done), but if he does not say anything to her, she can’t accuse him of anything except walking away from her, and its better to walk away and rather than say something he may regret later.
I was warned of early menopause after having a hysterectomy myself and have had symptoms of menopause for a few years now. But I don’t take any medication for it due to major drug allergies, so I manage with a healthy diet, avoid alcohol, drink plenty of water, try exercise, and most importantly try to get a good sleep.
Yogi
Friday, 19. March 2010
What sort of worries me is that this is your mother and in a few more years you will also be going down this same path. You will need the support and love from family as best they can provide it to you and you also will be lets say hateful in your own way.
Not saying it will fix it but it could help some. Maybe if after work you could get your mom and your self go do some things mostly I’m talking about exercising. Maybe go walking, ride the bike, work out in a gym. some go into a mall and walk around it a just to do something. I know with the wife since she has rode her bike(I pick up cans)her attitude towards things has gotten better. you both could lose the weight you don’t want. Almost every woman I eever known thinks something si to fat so this would take care of a lot of that plus give you your own personnel self estem and more pride in your self. A win win for all. It reliefs a lot of her stress(RN works 2/12 hours shift spinal cord sometime’s 3/12s). My relationship with our oldest son is in the craper(my fault to which I have had three brain surgerys for tumors)so we just don’t get along. So in turn she is going back and forth and this helps us. Not saying it will help you two or not. We have been working on it for the last two years. Slowly it is working(thank God). We don’t live near our exstended family(MO& KS)so we have to wing it for the most part. Phone calls and now and then we might go see one of them or they come out(we are in NC).
Sorry you have a long road ahead of you but it is going to take a lot of determanation and dedication along with love, understanding. All are not going to forget but forgivening is a must so you can move on in life. Life is a river of tears so pick up the oars and row.Randy Travis